When you’ve committed to moving abroad with your children your challenge will be keeping them motivated and engaged whilst you work through the many difficult decisions and challenges that come with moving to another country. On one hand you’ll need all your energy to get everything in place (accommodation, job, transport, legalities, citizenship, shipping, utilities etc) and on the other you’ll need to focus on the emotional impacts on your children and family.
Re-iterate their concerns and what you’re planning to do to support them – You’ve hopefully spent some time in the first stage talking with your children about their worries and maybe touching on some of the things you can all do to get round them. It’s definitely worth revisiting some of these things with a clear plan of how you’ll support your children with their fears so they absolutely know that you’ve still got them in mind and you want them to be happy.
Be really positive and highlight benefits – I’m sure it goes without saying that you need to be positive. This will subconsciously flow into those around you so make sure you’re talking about the great things that the move abroad will bring and how it will be of benefit to individuals and your family as a whole. One thing I would avoid though is trying too hard to turn worries into positives. This is something I did and I think it had the opposite effect as it’s like you’re trying to cover it up.
Let them know that your scared too! – Although it might sound counter productive, it’s a great idea to share your fears so your children don’t feel isolated or weak. And by sharing that you have fears too gives you the opportunity to explain how you’re going to overcome them and why those fears are not enough to put you off moving abroad. It’s a cliche thing to say, but a problem shared is a problem halved…
Get your children involved in the more detailed research and decisions – Again, this will make them feel empowered and involved. It will also give them more insight into where you’re going, what your home will be like and what the area will be like. Show them the properties you’re interested in and ask them for their opinion. Get a list of things from them on what they think is important for your new home and take these things into consideration. If you can make it into a team effort then your children will feel much more like a part of the team.